Open Question: Is my housemate within her rights? VERY LONG story, but please help!?
Posted on 08. Feb, 2010 by Yahoo! Answers: Search for in Hot, Inane, Internet, Web, fcukin
My boyfriend and I have been together for a 2 years. I attended school out of town until January when he left on deployment. Back in November, his sister (Kate) needed a place to stay until she got on her feet. My boyfriend offered her our apartment to live in so someone could watch the place while he is gone. He did not tell me about this decision. When he told me that his sister and her 3-year old child would be staying with me, I was not happy at all. While I am a quiet homebody, his sister often goes out clubbing and caters to the rap/hip-hop lifestyle--I detest it. I also HATE children. We have also planned on buying a dog for several months. I'm concerned because Kate's child hurts her playmates and is very rough. She also barges into my room often, forcing me to close/lock my door which will not be an option with the puppy. Kate moved in last month and cleaned and rearranged everything. My boyfriend said she could stay if she buys the food and pays $50 towards utilities. She gets $400 in food stamps every month, so she only pays $50 out of her pocket in rent. Things started smooth, but her boyfriend is always around. He eats and showers there! Kate is going through chemo, but is suffering from few of the symptoms. Still, she insisted that Vee helps her clean the apartment and helps take care of her child. Against that argument I felt mean to ask her to have Vee around less often, so I dropped the subject. One day after her chemo, Kate felt ill and left all the dishes out in the kitchen. The counters were covered with dirty dishes--some of which had food in them! It stayed like that for three days while I was out of down. When I returned my Vee said he saw a cockroach in the kitchen. Kate blamed it on the neighbors upstairs. She fumigated the apartment and the roaches are gone. I had a friend over last week. We made spagetti and I used some ground beef from the freezer. Kate was upset because she was going to use it. She now gives me $60 of her food stamps to buy my own food. I felt ridiculous having to label my food in my own home but she did the same. I asked her if we were still sharing the bread, milk, eggs, etc. She said I could share hers "for now." I recently went out of town again, and when I came back I found that she had even labeled the milk, the butter, even the hand soap and dish washing soap as hers! I'm angry. She has rearranged my apartment, left my kitchen a disaster and given us cockroaches, allowed her boyfriend to be over constantly, and has violated the agreement made with my boyfriend that she supply food! She stays in my apartment for a mere $60 per month in free foodstamps! (My boyfriend is letting her save the extra $50 she is supposed to pay under pressure from his parents.) She is not even legally supposed to be in our apartment. She is NOT a resident here and she does NOT live here, she is a GUEST. And now I feel like she's divided everything straight down the middle, as if she has full rights to do so! She is staying in the apartment practically free of charge because of my boyfriend's generosity. I don't even want her to stay. He told me before he left that she would be out by the beginning of March, but her family wants her to stay until 4/15. I want her gone! I'd also like to add that aside from the problems described above, we get along great. She's very smiley.